Alphabetical List of Values

I have put the list of values in alphabetical order so anyone could go through the list quickly and see if there are any missing. Let me know if you think I should add some.

First, the categories of values:

Character

Ethics

Health

Nature/Environment

Relationships

Spirituality

Shared living/Interdependence

Social Justice

Values (category is after the dash)

Anti-speciesism-Ethics

Appreciation-Character

Attachment Parenting-Relationships

Celebrations/Creating Traditions-Shared living/Interdependence

Consistent Life Ethic-Ethics

Congruency-Ethics

Conflict prevention and resolution_

Connect with Nature-Nature/Environment/Animals

Communicating with animals-Nature/Environment/Animals

Critical Creative Thinking

Compassion-Character

Diversity-Social Justice

Extended Family-Shared living/Interdependence

Emotional Health-Health

Effective Communication

Friendship-Relationships

Gift Economy

Holistic Healing

Healthy Parents/Healthy Children-Shared living/Interdependence

Land Stewardship instead of Ownership-Shared living/Interdependence

Minimalism-Spiritual

Moving our bodies-Health

Monogamous Marriage-Relationships

Nonviolence-Ethic

Oneness/Interconnectedness with all of life-Spiritual

Play-

Purity/chastity-Relationships

Restorative Justice-Social Justice

Respect-Character

Right Livelihood-Shared living/Interdependence

Raw Plant Based Diet (70-100% Raw)-Health

ReWilding

Reaching out to the larger world-

Resilience

Spiritual Practices/Celebrations

Truth seeking

Trust-building/Integrity

Unity

Unschooling

Vegan Permaculture

Vision

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Goal: Develop An Effective Membership Process

 

Here is a membership process from Acorn Community that is quite detailed. From what I have learned from visiting communities, researching, and living in communities, this really makes sense.

I visited Acorn Community back in 2000. I’m glad to see they are still going strong. They are neighbors to Twin Oaks, and have learned a lot from Twin Oaks, I imagine.

Here is what you find when you think about applying to be a visitor at Acorn.

When I read about this stuff, I feel drawn to just go live in a community like Acorn! But Acorn is not vegan, and not all my values are shared. I need to be a pioneer. This helps me realize that I hope that our intentional community can prove to other vegan communities how beneficial it would be to adopt veganism.

Having a new member policy that easily can screen out people who just clearly won’t be a fit, and their very presence can be stressful to members, is really important. We want to create a safe haven for residents, including of course our animal friends.

The application process is very important to–just deciding who can come for a visitor period in order to explore membership–can prevent a lot of heart aches also.

Sadly, many people who are drawn to intentional communities are not as emotionally healthy as they may think they are. When conflicts arise, and these people get tested in some way (not intentionally), their shadow side can come out and be very attacking and hurtful. I have experienced this repeatedly.

I will continue to work on the application process. Here is a sample application from Acorn that we can add to.

Here are suggestions to determine if someone is emotionally intelligent referenced from this article. :

  • If an applicant talks about a failure, does the comment suggest an awareness of some personal responsibility for the episode, or does he or she simply blame others?
  • When it comes to handling criticism, is the person able to acknowledge any shortcomings and keep things in perspective rather than becoming defensive and making excuses?
  • What about teamwork? Can candidates describe how they have confronted simmering issues and helped to solve them with a team, or are the answers slanted more individually? Similarly, when talking about successes, do they acknowledge the contributions of others, or take all the credit?
  • How does the applicant interact with you, the hiring manager? Does he or she engage in small talk, or steer clear of it?
  • Do candidates seem genuinely interested in the job and the people they’ll be working with? Or do you sense indifference?
  • Do applicants communicate in terms that are easily understandable and show concessions to others, or do the answers suggest they may be tuned out emotionally and blind to needs and preferences that aren’t their own?
  • What about their body language? Does it indicate they’re listening attentively — or distracted?
  • The report states, “If any answers tend toward the latter in any of these questions, it may be a red flag for a low emotional quotient.”

More ways to identify someone with a high EQ:

https://www.inc.com/marcel-schwantes/4-ways-to-tell-someone-has-high-emotional-intelligence-and-is-not-just-faking-it.html

 

*Value: Restorative Justice

Restorative Justice: Restorative justice views crime as more than breaking the law – it also causes harm to people, relationships, and the community. So a just response must address those harms as well as the wrongdoing. If the parties are willing, the best way to do this is to help them meet to discuss those harms and how to about bring resolution. Other approaches are available if they are unable or unwilling to meet. Sometimes those meetings lead to transformational changes in their lives. Learn more here. 

Value: Healthy Parenting/Healthy Children

Healthy Parenting: 

Using the principles of Attachment parenting is the one of the main ways we can foundation of healthy parenting. Attachment parenting focuses on the nurturing connection that parents can develop with their children. That nurturing connection is viewed as the ideal way to raise secure, independent, and empathetic children.

Resources:

The Natural Child Project

Unschooling: We teach our children in ways that address the whole child’s needs so that they can be the healthiest possible adult. Learn more here. 

Attachment Parenting: Such things as home birthing, co-sleeping, wearing your baby, and extended time of breastfeeding are a part of this style of parenting. Read more here.and here. 

Breast Feeding. Read more here. 

Gentle Guidance: Read more here. 

Unschooling: Read more here. Goal: Have a cooperative school based on unschooling principles based on Sudbury School principles. . 

Treating children with respect. Read more here.  

The family bed and co-sleeping: Read more here. 

Wisdom Parenting,  The Natural Child Project,

My experience with applying nonviolent communication principles to my parenting:  Read here.  and more here.                           

 

*Value: Community Outreach

I am still in the process of completing this. Stay tuned for more info.

Community Outreach: We cultivate mutually beneficial relationships with our neighbors and the larger community in Living Springs, Kingston, Huntsville, Madison County, Fayetteville, Eureka Springs and Northwest Arkansas.. We do all that we can to help our neighbors and extended network to cooperate with each other, solve problems, and become a beacon of healing and light. We have community-building activities like work parties and festivals for our neighborhood and the larger community that meets their needs and ours.

Resources: 

We can have festivals similar to The Flight To Light Experience that I co-produced with my son. Rather than being a Christian outreach, it would be more like a veg fest promoting veganism and all of our values in a fun way.

I started blog,  I Luv Fayetteville,  where I had visions of helping Fayetteville becoming an amazing city. We can apply some of these ideas.

Community: Connect! is the structure I created and developed over that past decade (2019 now) Consistently successful in helping people to connect, I have yet to be able to do this for an extended amount of time to see the true potential. With a community backing this up, my goal could happen and this could spread worldwide. See blog here. 

Mobile Mutual Aid Herbal Apothecary:  Wouldn’t it be lovely to have something like this to really help people.

Being a part of an Emergency Preparedness Fair  would be great.

*Non-hierarchial Governance and Shared Decision Making

Non-Hierarchical Governance and Shared Decision Making: We create systems that invite the input of everyone and use strategies that help everyone to get their needs met. We use the patterns from Sociocracy 3.0 which guide us, including consent decision making.

                                          Resources

These principles help us stay on track. Sociocracy also known as dynamic governance, is a system of governance which seeks to achieve solutions that create harmonious social environments as well as productive organizations and businesses. Learn more at this website Sociocracy for All as well.

Effective Decision Making/Problem Solving: Consent Decision Making is a integral part of Sociocracy: Consent means the absence of objections. Similar to consensus, consent invites group participation in the decision making process. … After a formal decision making process, a decision is ratified when there are no meaningful or “paramount” objections. From the website Sociocracy for All Here is a guide to consent decision making.

Clearness process: This process was formed by Quakers. I’ve always like the theory but have never use it.  Patricia wrote more here. 

*Value: Congruency

I still need to complete this–but here is a start!

Congruency: “There is a reality that few people recognize. An individual can not effectively manage time without personal congruity, and congruity is not possible without clearly defined values that are brought under control in personal thought and performance.”Charles Hobbs.  Hobbs defines congruity as “experiencing balance, harmony, and appropriateness with events in your life.”from a post in the Vasthead Blog

Hobbs defines congruity as “experiencing balance, harmony, and appropriateness with events in your life.” Incongruity is “tinkering with tantalizing trivialities.” You can achieve “self-unification” when there is congruity between your value system and actual performance. According to Hobbs:

As you form a congruity between what you believe to be right and how you perform, you will experience the highest form of self-actualization

I wrote more about this here.