Day 3 Of Soul In Wonder “Getting out of my own way” challenge

I continue to blog about my journey with Christopher August and Sara Oakley, holistic coaches, as they guide us in this 7-day challenge to help us to clear away the blocks that keep us from achieving our goals. You can get involved by going to the Facebook page. 

This was a great exercise. It was very helpful to me. I am going to take the memories that came up into my healing sessions with Jesus, my friend and guide, where he helps me to resolve past issues in very loving and powerful ways. I feel grateful to Lori Weiss, who is a member of our group, for creating this exercise.

My goal is: I am joyously finding the ideal compatible person who is passionate about co-founding the Vegan Utopia Ecovillage with me.

Hey, if you want to explore whether or not you qualify, check out this link: 

Vegan Utopia Ecovillage is the new working name.

“I scare myself by imagining…”

  1. No one will ever join me in co-creating this Vegan Utopia Ecovillage.
  2. I will have to go back to work and won’t have time to dedicate to finishing the EcoVillage and working with someone even if he or she does come.
  3. The person who comes will be a disappointment even though I put him or through a thorough screening process
  4. I’m not good enough to attract a compatible person who has the time, talents and energy to devote to building Vegan Utopia Ecovillage
  5. I need to focus on selling the Event Center and thus won’t have time to work on finding a compatible co-founder.

What is the fear that causes each of these thoughts?

  1. I haven’t been able to find a suitable co-founder for community yet so I never will.
  2. Things like this take so long–finding the right person. Time is running out. Money is running out.
  3. I have been disappointed by people so many times. Maybe there is not one compatible person in the world who meets all the qualifications I need.
  4. Maybe I think I am better than who I think I am.
  5. There is so much to do! I am starting to feel a bit overwhelmed and afraid I will burn out, even though I right now have a ton of positive energy.

What is the belief that powers each fear? Where does it come from? When was it formed?

  1. Ideal community building partners are impossible to find. Comes from experience! Formed over the past 42 years of seeking!
  2. I will run out of money because for most of my life I have been broke. Formed at a young age when my parents were always saying they didn’t have enough money for certain things. They were not entrepreneurs and thus they needed to be on a budget.
  3. People are not trustworthy. Comes from hundreds of people letting me down in various ways–basically not willing to resolve conflicts and face their shadows. I have also let people down in the past. Maybe I deserve this because it is my karma.
  4. When I was in an intensive 5-day personal growth seminar when I was 28, we were asked to share our most vulnerable secret. I said that I felt as if I was better than other people, and I wished that I could be a guru of sorts. The facilitator, who I trusted, asked the group, “Who thinks she is better than you? Would you want to follow her?” Everyone proceeded to put me down. This was devastating. (I have done healing work around this, but I see maybe I need some more!)
  5. I will not take adequate care of myself. In the past, I have poured myself into projects and then didn’t take care of myself, and then when the project didn’t pan out, I was devastated. In fact, I am remembering a specific time right now, and I see I need to do some major healing work around that because it was related to finding people to buy property with a deadline.

Now, transmute these limiting beliefs into new, empowering beliefs:

  1. Because I now have a clear vision, resources, and a spiritual path that really nourishes me, I am ready to draw the perfect compatible co-founder for Vegan Utopia Ecovillage.
  2. I have more resources and support than I ever have had before, and ability to live very simply, so I have a really good chance of manifesting abundance for the project
  3. I forgive myself for past mistakes, and I believe that our Creator forgives us when we sincerely regret our mistakes and are heading on a new path.
  4. I am finding an increasing number of trustworthy people, especially in the vegan movement. I am capable of creating a good screening process and have the ability to discern whether or not someone is trustworthy.
  5. I am continuing to cultivate the attitude that we are all equally valuable, and as a servant leader I am equal to all with whom I work, and I bring out the best in them as they bring out the best in me.
  6. I have built up some really good habits of self-care, and I know I can continue with those habits since now I have an accountability partner.

Now, transmute these limiting beliefs into new, empowering beliefs:

I excite myself by imagining: 

  1. The perfect compatible person is even now being drawn effortless through miraculous ways to live here and co-found the Vegan Utopia Ecovillage with me.
  2. Abundance is coming at me from all sides because I am both being frugal, living in alignment with my values, and doing fun work to clear my blocks to prosperity.
  3. I am doing those things which help me to completely forgive myself for past mistakes and thus I feel more energized and open to receive.
  4. I have created a wonderful screening process that minimizes anyone getting far along the path who are not trustworthy, and I am meeting many wonderful people through reaching out for a co-founder.
  5. I am joyful about the way I relate to everyone as equals–no one is better, no one less than–but I just see the best in everyone! Everyone’s contributions are valuable.
  6. I am eating totally raw, exercising in fun ways that keep me fit, and having fun doing all kinds of things so I can have optimal health.



Excellent News Sources for Veganism

I compiled these news sources based on my own research and on suggestions from people on Soul In Wonder: Vegan Warrior Facebook group.

I love this Facebook group which is run by vegan holistic coaches Sara Oakley and Christopher August. I recommend that you join it!

Please share your favorite YouTubers and vegan news sources in the comments.

Thanks to Lori Weiss for starting this thread:

Vegan Food and Living Magazine/PlantPure Nation

Dr. Michael Gregor

Earthling Ed

James Aspey

High Carb Hannah

Ellen Fisher

Colleen Patrick Goudreau

Bite Sized Vegan

Mic the Vegan:

Plant Based News:

Latest Vegan News

One Green Planet

All Creatures


Unschooling Is Really Lifelong Learning

People who join our community will just love this method of teaching children and maybe creating a school modeled after this idea. I love this quote and the solution is unschooling!

In his acceptance speech for the New York City Teacher of the Year award (1990), John Gatto said, “Schools were designed by Horace Mann … and others to be instruments of the scientific management of a mass population.” In the interests of managing each generation of children, the public school curriculum has become a hopelessly flawed attempt to define education and to find a way of delivering that definition to vast numbers of children.


This Inner Child Healing With Jesus Has Benefitted Me Immensely

Even though I no longer consider Jesus my lord and savior, as my guide and friend he has been faithful to help me with deep healing in my life.

This description of the Immanuel Approach is very helpful if you want to know how I connect with Jesus on a deep level.

Not everyone who is part of our community will want to connect with Jesus like this but I think that if a person has a strong connection to a guide or guru, this method can work as well.

There are other great ways of re-parenting ourselves and healing our inner children. Here is another resource I like.

People who live here will take great joy in helping to heal their inner child as well as helping others to do the same.

Building Healthy Community Is A Process of Building Healthy Teams

As I am doing my work in the Getting Out of My Own Way with Soul In Wonder holistic coaches Sara Oakley and Christopher August, I am remembering important aspects of how to build a good working environment.

I think this article about strength-based team building is really applicable to building a healthy community.

Day 2: Getting Out of Your Own Way Challenge

Holistic coaches Christopher August and Sara Oakley of Soul in Wonder are challenging me and I’m not taking it from these young whippersnappers! ! I quit! Not!

I love what they are doing. I feel invigorated and inspired. I have done a lot of personal growth work in my life and thus I appreciate that they are doing some cutting-edge stuff that stretches me! So here I go–answering the questions on the worksheet.

  1. The self-sabotage behaviors and characteristics I have expressed in the recent past are:

Getting embroiled in situations that completely drained my energy because I thought I needed to protect people from certain situations.

I realize now that I need to choose my battles, and let people learn their lessons in their own time. I want to be more in tune with God as to where I should pour my energy.

I have stayed with people who were supportive with their words, but in so many ways with their actions were not supportive.

I need to be more discerning, and not be seduced by people’s charm.

I have in the past used food to drown my sorrows or distract me from doing what I needed to do. I haven’t done that for two days! Yay!

I have gotten swept up in trying to help people do things–that were not necessarily for their highest good–but I let them persuade me that it was. I wasn’t listening to my intuition. I wasn’t being honest with the other person because of fear of being rejected.

Okay…this is taking forever! I’ll work on this more tomorrow! Next question:

2. What excuses do you often make?

I don’t have enough time.

I don’t have enough money.

I need to get this done before I do that.

If only so and so would not be doing that, I would be okay.

Yikes! This is too much. I’ll do more tomorrow! (oops–that was another excuse)

It is too hard technically for me. I’m not technical.

I don’t like to learn new things.

3. In what way do these excuses and behaviors get in the way of you achieving your goals?

My time and energy is drained by drama.

My thoughts go towards the drama and keep me from focusing.

I have to do a lot of processing–which is a good thing–but if I am creating more things to process–that is a bad thing!

4. What do you get out of not thriving in this area of your life?

Not having even one person here to join me in the community has given me time to really figure out what I am about and what this community is going to look like.

All the drama that has occurred especially since I started conceptualizing and building this Vegan Ecovillage has been a blessing because it catapulted me out of my Christian mindset and now I can be open to people of all kinds of faith walks.

I really think that on some level I did not attract a compatible person to help me co-create this community was because I just wasn’t ready!

Less and less I find myself self-sabotaging.

I know this wasn’t the expected outcome of this question but it feels good.

Which needs and values are not being met as a result?

I have blocked myself from my true values one of which was critical creative thinking–I thought in my Christian walk I was being logical and studying Christian apologetics so I could justify my faith walk and feel a sense of belonging.

My actions of getting involved in trying to fit in with groups because I was so desperate for relationships which resulted in so much drama–kept me from having healthy relationships.

I see so clearly now that when I finally accepted that I would rather be alone rather than compromising my values with people, that I opened myself up to close friends who are really supportive.

I know I need to go deeper into this work, but this is a good start.

Thanks for reading.